The exact method that a man with an 18-year porn addiction, anger issues, and massive emotional swings (me) went from almost losing his kids and being a needy manchild whose wife was ready to divorce him to being a man she deeply wants “more than you think” → her words!!

How to reboot a marriage with a checkered past without ever having to talk about what happened, and yet neither partner holds it against the other

The three T’s that transform even the most estranged relationships into a reminder of the honeymoon years (hint: the first one is so common that everyone and their dog has published a book about it, but the other two are rarely even given a passing mention but make up 93% of why things either flourish or fail)

What ancient dinosaurs can teach about the proper way to “mate for life” so that even if you mess up daily, she’ll still never leave. (hint: it has nothing to do with the reptile brain, despite what all the neuropsychos say)

What pickup artists don’t know about communication that could change their one-night stands into lifelong plans without ever having their marriage burn down

What dog farts teach about your wife’s mood and what NOT to do when things suddenly get frigid

The immune system hack for newborns that makes the deepest part of your wife or partner quake with love, appreciation, and even desire for you (plus, how the experts keep getting it wrong)

The one thing your wife really wants (Jasmine spills the beans on this, not me), and why she isn’t getting it from you even when you spend most of your free time trying to be a “good husband” and make her happy

Why no amount of talking ever seems to solve your relationship problems and what to do instead so you stop putting in so much work to get nowhere.

The Benjamin Button secret to why marriages go from newlywed to nearly dead long before retirement comes knocking and how to change it from a ticking time bomb to a budding flower (hint: most couples flub this because they use this secret on the wrong thing)

How treating your wife like a zoo exhibit both activates her mirror neurons and releases you from needing her to change for you to be happy

The strange effect certain movie quotes can have on marital arguments that completely diffuses the situation and quickly turns your spouse from an enemy into an ally

The “mud mask” secret for cleaning out the pores of the relationship in a way that makes both partners only see the best in each other… even after years in the doghouse.

How to momentarily shut off her “mom brain” so that the kids stop getting between you and the woman you love. (note: shutting off “dad brain” takes less effort than blinking and is just about as automatic. Shutting off his “work brain” is a different story… maybe as hard as blinking twice if it’s the right kind of blink)

Why a woman’s psychology changes depending on the distance from the house and how far away you have to be to get the maximum amount of attention and connection.

The invisible way the woman you married died and was buried the minute your first child was born and why she may never be resurrected unless you understand and use the “playlist principle”

What your wife DOESN’T expect and why working too hard to please her becomes a turn off

The best time of day to connect with your spouse so that both of you are firing on all cylinders (hint: it doesn’t have an AM or a PM in it)

Why men lose attraction for their wives even though they still love her and a simple daily hack that brings the fire back

How the way you look at your husband or wife can make them remember everything you’ve ever done wrong, and the 5 words that instantly stop the resentment in its tracks.

The one thing stalkers do to creep women out that a girlfriend and married woman craves from her beau, plus the way to do it that stays in the Goldilocks zone (not too little, not too much… just right!)

The real reason why men will never understand their wives and how to turn that into the biggest advantage they could ever have on their quest to ignite her desire (without ever having to “get her”)

“All guys do it!” - Frozen (but not what the movie says)

The 3 Fs: which takes a common hostage negotiation skill and uses it to turn even the most difficult conversations with your wife into the fourth kind of F (which is much more enjoyable)

The real reason she married you, and how knowing this one thing can free you from neediness, perfectionism, and getting defensive… and no, it’s not your dimple

A simple trick to instantly know if your wife loves you and desperately wants you without needing her to say a single word, bat her eyes in your direction, or even be in the same room (plus, how that single answer changes a man’s entire approach to the relationship)

The insidious way innocent Disney movies ruin marriage for a man (plus, the anti-Disney kind of relationship to make that requires little to no maintenance for both husband and wife to keep their hearts beating for each other)

Why compliments, errands, and surprises for your wife backfire in the beginning, what they make her

think, and what to do instead.

The after naptime tactic that keeps your wife or husband appreciating you even when you are far away, hard at work, and so focused on other things you might as well be on another planet

How you can use a simple Israeli dance move to cement your wife’s love for you even while embarrassing her in front of her friends (and yes, Jasmine still laughs about this. No manipulation required)

What to do to gain your kids’ love and respect in only a few seconds a day, even if you’ve been yelling at them, annoyed with them, or simply absent for the biggest moments of their lives. (hint: my second son was so impressed by this that he changed his wallpaper to honor it)

What to focus on so you don’t need to worry about “love languages”, boundaries, marriage counseling, and other checklist items before finally repairing your relationship

How to let your wife hate everything you say and even burn any words you write to her in effigy and still have it not even faze you.

The surest way to shut down your spouse and turn them into a stubborn mule that refuses every possible suggestion you make, and a simple shift that gets them to go from such a Pinnochio donkey into a puppet and eventually into a real person you can connect with on every level.

The “shoe drop” effect that makes rebuilding trust a years-long project and why you don’t need to in order for her to love you again.

What a bank visit illustrates about keeping your wife “interested”... if you catch my dad pun.

How to rebuild your children’s self-confidence in as little as a minute a day with a weird neuroscience trick, even if your past behavior has torn them down. (hint: this works so fast precisely because of how biologically resilient children naturally are… adults usually take longer)

The exact reason your wife won’t tell what she’s thinking or will only give you vague hints when you ask and what to do so she spills the beans without even realizing it (works on guys, too!)

Jasmine’s selfish advice to wives of porn addicts or angry, checked out men that saved her from years of healing work, marriage counseling, and needing to control her husband (me)

The unconscious thing men do that makes their wives unwilling to do anything for them without suspicion, resentment, or lots of resistance and how to change that without even telling her

What women unconsciously do when their husbands are in addictive swings that bleeds into the rest of their relationship for years unless they catch it, and how to handle it when all that pain finally comes to the surface

What “fine” really means, and why it can lead to tears, sobs, boogers, and one-word answers

How to let your spouse vent all of her emotions, fear, and frustrations without even needing to use her mouth and how the skin on the back of your fingers can give her the exact cue to do it

A crazy quirk about email servers that has saved hundreds of marriages even if both people use some of the most direct and vile language in a confrontation

The most selfish way to approach a relationship and why even science says it is the best thing to do

The unsettling truth about compromise, how it slowly turn your lover into just another roommate, robs you of your lust for life, and what to do instead so neither of you has to compromise again

How to bring up even your deepest insecurities and desires about sex in a way that doesn’t scare your partner and even opens the door to possibilities neither of you considered but both of you really want

The ironclad way to turn any argument into a “just another Tuesday afternoon” reason for your spouse to love you even more. (note: this same technique even gives away the gameplan that make kid fights extremely easy — not to mention funny — to settle)

Why women don’t really know how to say what they are feeling either, and what to do so neither of you even have to talk about it for things to get better.

How to make her feel safe with you even after years of wondering whether you are just waiting around for a better woman or comparing her to porn stars

A simple perceptual trick that gets both you and your wife to forgive each other without having to explain yourself or justify what you did

The “dog leash” secret about physical intimacy and why men often crave more extremes until they realize what’s missing in the equation

The strange link between murder and sex that explains why both men and women can be freakishly scared of both, plus exactly what to change so that intimacy and sex become that safest place to be for both you and her

The “vocabulary of touch” that can sometimes feel even more intimate to your wife than sex and make it so that she chases you like she used to when you were dating

Why holding hands the wrong way can destroy a woman’s libido faster than a soap bubble pops in a strong wind and the exact way I turned that around so that Jasmine unconsciously felt the opposite.

How traumatic experiences from the past (even before you met) can unconsciously sabotage your relationship, and what to do physically so that you can let them go without years of unnecessary therapy

What an eye roll really means and why body language experts have been misinterpreting your wife’s gestures for decades, plus exactly what to do when she make “that look” so that it stops feeling like a personal attack and starts becoming another thing you love about her

What many men secretly fear about their wives, and how they are dead wrong

The “pirate cry” technique that can calm your wife down in 30 seconds or less even when the house is a mess, the kids are screaming, dinner did not go as planned

A pro-wrestling tactic that has made my wife feel loved even when it seems to her like nobody does (no body slams required… but I guess if that’s your thing go for it???)

Can a man rape his wife even when she seems to be okay with it? The answer to this question and how to make sure it never happens to you

What a five finger game can do to bring a woman full-body pleasure that no penis ever could (note: it’s G-rated, doesn’t require taking any clothes of, and doesn’t even involve the “erogenous zones”)

Where to touch your wife with the bottom of your foot to banish all her worries and stress so the two of you can finally connect even if no words are ever spoken

The weird way that gravity and a carpeted floor can target and eradicate years of hidden, nonverbal tension and resentments without even knowing what they are or where they came from (hint: this little ritual is an excellent thing to do before bed)

How both of you can speed through the stages of rebuilding trust and intimacy even while watching your favorite sports teams or Netflix series

What a simple hand rotation can do to show your wife you care better than any “I love you” ever did

How you can literally walk all over your wife while she begs you for more (note: no abuse involved. Jasmine even does it to me, and I like it)

3 powerful oxytocin release triggers that bond a couple together

A hyperstimulation technique to banish worry, stress, fear, frustration, anxiety, and pain. It even works on headaches while almost immediately transporting your spouse into a feeling of peace and calm. (not: also G-rated, and you can even use it on yourself)

A brain-rewiring technique that you can use “the wrong way” to rewire you wife and kids to love you even when you’re in a bad mood. (yep, you don’t even have to “feel love” for them in the moment for it to work. You almost can’t get this wrong)

How Jasmine turned our angry, wall-punching son into a calm kiddo happy to do his chores using only her fingertips (no, it does not involve death points)

The secret we stumbled onto while teaching at Arizona State University that kept us together even when we hated each other. She even enjoyed it (probably, too much).

All the things that turn a woman off from sex (according to Jasmine) even when she likes and wants it, proving to men everywhere that, once again, “it’s not all about us”

5 nonverbal queues that can rebuild a relationship faster than “quality time” and conversation ever could.

What many women absolutely adore in older couples, and how to use that to your advantage before your hair turns white and skin shrivels like a raisin.

What to do when naked with your wife to resensitize and recalibrate your sex organs so the respond to the woman of your choice instead of to 2-dimensional fake porn on a phone screen

The mental hack that makes your wife enjoy sex with you instead of merely enduring it

Does the moon influence men’s attraction for their wives? The surprising answer we’ve seen in hundreds of couples plus how to stop the effects in their tracks… sometimes with a simple sway.

A biblical passage that exposes why such a tiny piece of a man’s body (and yes, for most of us it’s tiny) controls his thoughts, urges, and emotions. Plus, how to put a “bit” in its mouth, so to speak, to regain control and point it in the right direction

How men’s expectations of themselves in sex are robbing them of the orgasms and highs they could naturally feel by letting them go. Plus what that does for her

The best gift to give your spouse that can innoculate your marriage from falling apart and keep your spouse from cheating or falling for someone else (hint: it isn’t even about them)

How to use a two-dollar office timer from Walmart to spice up your sex life without having to do anything kinky or fantasize about anyone else just to climax (note: it even works to recover from excessive masturbation and erectile dysfunction)